How Much Do You Trust The Other?

We all have an issue on trust, we may say that we trust the other, but how much?

There are times that we say we trust someone with our life, but a voice in us ask us in a whisper, “Just how much do you trust them?”

     At times we may say that we trust someone soo much, but it is a lie and we know it. But why do we lie? Do we really want to show that we have someone to trust in and that we are not alone in this complicated and confussing world? Just what could we be able to get out from telling others that we have some trustworthy people beside us?

     A friend of mine once told me that I shouldn’t trust someone so much that I put my life at the front line. Even if it is a friend or foe, a product or a company, a stranger or the familiar, we might not know their true intention. We having to trust them too much and they knowing it, might just use those trust to their own advantages and having to hurt us at the end. Even with us not noticing it.

Sometimes when we trust our friends too much that we do not believe what other people tell us about them. At times, that people who really care about us gave us advice and warnings from people like these, we ignore them, we tell ourself soo strongly that its a lie, that they are all just jealous we have people we could go to.

     All of us started to learn about trust ever since we were created on this planet. Since the day of our birth, we place trust in our parents, putting our life in their hands. To take care of us, to feed us when we are hungry, to keep us warm and dry after we came back from playing in the rain, to give us new cloths when we begin to grow out of them. To guide us when we are lost and in confuse state, to teach us and at times to scold and shout at us when we did mistakes.

     Teenagers often likes to take these trust from their parents for granted. Parents trust their children to be good, to behave, to not bring down the family name, to show the world that, this family are to be respected, and most of the time, parents trust their children to not do anything foolish that might hurt themselves when the parents are not there to keep an eye on them. Children make promising to not lose their parents trust without even knowing what they are promising, what they are keeping at the edge of the cliff. Many times, teenagers makes mistakes of jumping around that cliff, not knowing that one day, that cliff will give way, and with the child, it will fall to the sea. For the parents and parents to be out there, give your child a second chance, even if they really break your heart and end up doing stupid things. Go back to guiding them to the right path, for that is what they have trusted you to do when they are lost in darkness.

You know how at times, when we fall in love, everything seems to be clouding our mind from the truth. Especially for the girls. Everytime when we fall in love with this one guy, we keep saying to ourself “this is the one”, but ends up that he isn’t. One weakness of girls, we believe men too quickly. maybe some of you don’t, your the stronger ones. But like me, I notice many of us are like that. because of their sweet words, we grow to trust them blindly without even really fully know them well. Even when the guys that your seeing are messaging another girl behind your back, and telling to your face that its just a business partner, you would believe him. Even start to imagine him at work, busy at his work to get his pay increase so that he could propose with a diamond ring. Don’t trust the men 100%, maybe just 99%. But for the guys, even if the ladies trust you 99%, that 1 little percent may just crush that whole 99%, and you would eventually lose that perfect girl. Not only that, you hurt her in the most evil way a girl could ever imagine. You lost her trust and trust, its something you have to earn once you lost it.

     But what about the trust place in friendship? If you were to meet me and personally ask me this, i would say, we all are basically alone. There is no one in the world that you could give all your trust to. Not even your friends. Some trust, yes, but not 100%. We make friends, we lose friends. But the best part is if we could make new ones and still keep the old ones. But sometimes, its just seem impossible. Like what had recently happened to me. A friend that i thought is my truly best friend, that i could tell her anything that is bothering me, that i could trust her to keep my secrets and what ever I told to her. Ever since she met new friends of hers, she had forgotten me. I do not blame her, or hate her…but I have been thinking…all those things that i have said to her, will she still keep them as our little secrets or would she tell them to those new friends of hers?

     Like what I have said so often to many different people, that trust, is not just a word. It is something that we place on other people, like a mark. It is easily put on, but once its being erase, there is no way to have that mark to appear again. “Trust is something you have to earn, not ask for”. Be wise in choosing the ones that you trust.